Monday, November 19, 2007

All we need is love

Recently I've been bogged down with an insane amount of work, and family commitments. I went to KL over the weekend for a Dog Show with my dad, (it was good to see him, missed him loads), and had to do several shoots and events over last week. Its been pretty tiring, but fulfilling of course.

Sometimes I think I'm blessed to be too busy to stop and breathe, and think. Lol. I say that with reflection over predicaments that can often surface due to 'too much thinking'. Yknowhatimean?

Love problems, things with friendships going awry, arguments, nitpicking.... all that really only happens when you allow yourself to be sucked in by it. And you only get sucked in if you have enough time to bother. A couple of my friends are going through some stuff, and I realise that sometimes, as per title of this entry, "All We Need Is Love".

That's what alot of us are looking for, right? The difference between good relationships and bad ones, is whether the concept of 'love' meets our expectations.

A friend of mine mentioned recently; "The idea of love is easy to enjoy. The problem is the execution of this emotion." (Or something like that). So true, innit? Two people may truly, really love each other... but if they don't know how to show it, or if one or both of them make bad judgement calls... it really can end what could be a potentially amazing relationship. Similarly, two people may not "love" one another with deeply or passionately, but if they have ample respect, trust and patience, they may ultimately have a more stable, fulfilling relationship than the former example.

Still, I don't know which relationship I'd rather have - one with moments of brilliance, or one with a steady pulse rate. I guess that just shows my immaturity in this minefield of emotions.

20 comments:

Hu said...

hi Andrea, pardon..it can be really tough being in the first one.. as you said "All we need is Love".. but there are times, you dun hv to "know to how show" to feel love from other party..

as for second example.. one will feel "monotone".. unless feelings can be nutured overtime, right?

i wouldnt consider which one i wants to have.. y not a relationship with both quality? as ur friend mentioned, "the idea of love is easy to enjoy", there is no better or worst rship i think, i would just enjoy the moments :P

Pathfinder said...

I see I just missed you (in every sense). :(

"I went to KL over..."

I hope you flew. ;)

"...only happens when you allow yourself to be sucked in..."

Yes...you can refuse to be "sucked in", but only by cutting all those things from your life. It's possible, but it's not really practical. Work can distract you from problems (even prevent you from tackling them), but something's got to give eventually...

I've lost friends this way. And they don't always give you warning...one day, you're just on the outside looking in. And you can't even complain, because it's all your fault...

"The idea...the execution..."

It's not just idea (or ideal) against execution. It's also love...which lasts, against romance...which doesn't necessarily. I'd choose the "steady pulse", but who says a relationship can't have both... :)

And, in that vein of keeping in touch, you have mail...

Pathfinder said...

"...y not a relationship with both..."

Beaten by seconds... ;)

Chief Monkey said...

We do not know you (much), Andrea but we love you still..

Of course you can't 'feel' our love but.. imagination goes a looong way.

If you happen to look out the window and it's a starry, starry night - just imagine that each star represents 'love' from all who know you.. including your fans. Then you'll say "Wow!!".

Just don't blame me if it's a cloudy night lah.

Hee hee...

=D

stan said...

well i'm glad to see although you have that hectic schedule you still find time to share :)

regarding your relationship problems its all subjective, how much are you willing to give for a friend is more important. its not abt being sucked in or not but of course it should not compromise your position :)

finally i have to agree with pathfinder why cant a r/s have both moments and being steady, its all abt the balance i cant imagine a r/s solely based on either :)

dun forget to rest and play too andrea! all work and no play makes u dull laters.

s0nnys said...

Stumbled upon your blog while surfing... can't even remember what I was originally searching for, but what they hey! Serendipity... life's like that.

When Christmas comes around the corner I get kinda melancholic and think about the things you wrote about. It's not quite weltschmerz proportion, although it sometimes feels like it.

Hope you find what you're looking for.

Cheers!

Sonny
http://www.sonnysantos.com

心魔 said...

You can avoid all these headaches and complications by staying single. It's just as fun, if not more. Besides, better single than sorry. We have many responsibilities to fulfill - studies, career, care for our loved ones (I mean our REAL loved ones, ones whose blood we share) etc - that dwelling excessively on affairs of the heart can be plain irresponsible.

Pathfinder said...

Stan...

Thanks...you are, obviously, very perceptive. ;)

Pathfinder said...

Scorpion...

(A) A has to get attached sometime, unless you're advocating spinsterhood...

(B) Only BLOOD RELATIVES are REAL LOVED ONES? I must've missed that memo...

心魔 said...

(A) Not advocating spinsterhood. A should get attached at the APPROPRIATE time.

(B) A spouse is a real loved one. As long as one does not have a spouse, then his/her only real loved ones are blood family + relatives. I did NOT say that only blood relatives are real loved ones.

Pathfinder said...

(A) True...but that's not what you wrote. You suggested STAYING single...

(B) Your statements are as convoluted as they are confusing.

We all know what you did NOT say. How about telling us what you ARE saying? You can prance and dance around technicalities all you like, but this isn't a courtroom...

You wrote that REAL LOVED ONES are BLOOD RELATIVES (there wasn't an ONLY in there, but I thought the implication was quite clear).

Now, you tell us REAL LOVED ONES are SPOUSES and BLOOD RELATIVES...if you don't have a SPOUSE, your ONLY REAL LOVED ONES are BLOOD FAMILY AND RELATIVES (the ONLY is there this time). I'm not sure if BLOOD FAMILY AND RELATIVES mean BLOOD FAMILY AND BLOOD RELATIVES (same thing, really) or BLOOD FAMILY AND THOSE RELATED BY MARRIAGE OR ADOPTION.

But it still doesn't matter, because one can have REAL LOVE for friends who aren't related...

Pathfinder said...

A...

I'm here reading your blog, and you JUST appeared on TV to endorse some jeweller...

UBIQUITY is the first step to FAME. ;)

Andrea Fonseka said...

Path, I swear to date you read my blog so meticulously you probably now know me better than I know myself sometimes. ;)

Yep, I did an interstitial for Christmas, it was sooo much fun playing with little shiny things. hehehe. I think I have a new calling - Jewellery Collectore. The 'e' at the end just to sound a little more Shi-Shi.

Pathfinder said...

"...you probably now know me better than I know myself..."

I'm not sure I'm kidding when I say...women (you included) will always be a mystery to me. :O

I've a few more comments that are Eyes Only. You have mail...

Aronil said...

Heloooooo Dahling Andrea!!

N yes I finally found your blog lol.. Sorry to hear about the heartaches base on this post dearie. You'll find your special someone soon enough.

Out of the two choices, I rather have the relationship with a steady pulse (maybe be boring...but in a way i find it more secure)... Moments of brilliance.. you'll find them even within the steady pulses...however sometimes... the moments of brilliances are the ones that might not last... Just my opinion...

Depends on your heart ^_^

Cheers babes,
Linora

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