Last night we shot some finals scenes for Enbloc (8pm every Wed! ;) ) and while I can't give too much away, I have to say that Cindy, my character, goes through lots of ups and downs. Last night was one of my downs. Which brings me to this question.
Would you be the third party in a relationship? As in be the person that would cause a relationship to break up, to be with the girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife. Would you be the "Other woman/man"?
Sometimes in life you meet people, whom you connect amazingly with, that you wonder what it'll be like to be with that person... and he or she ends up to be either in a relationship, or worse, married. Actually, I won't explore the married option, because that one's really off limits. heh. A more controversial question would be the other one. I guess there are a few options;
1. Try to steal he/she away from her partner
Personally I believe in karma, that is what goes around, comes around. If you steal her away from her partner, there'sa high chance that it'll happen to you. Not just because of Karma, but hey - if she can leave her man for you, she sure a hell would be able to leave you for another man. So tread carefully on this turf. Playing devil's advocate though - and this is a true story - the lady ended up leaving her fiancee for the guy, and they ended up happily married. So how? Its still a risk to take this path, because if she decides not to leave her man, your relationship with her would be ruined forever. She wouldn't respect what you tried to do (especially if you were manipulative), and you possible may have lost respect for her in the process as well (for cheating on her partner). So there is a high chance of this one not working out.
2. Be 'friends'
Almost like option (1), but not really. Whilst you make it clear to her that you have feelings for her, and you'd be the best man in the world for her, refuse to do anything with her while she's in a relationship. She would probably admire your 'principles' (or not, pending on how you handle it), and you may or may not get results. Point is, ball is in her court, and its she who decides what she wants to do. Make it clear though, that being the third wheel is not an option for you. Whilst very easy to initially do, this option becomes complicated if emotions are thrown in the air and treads on option (1) above. Amazing amount of willpower is required is to carry this option out.
3. Quietly sit in a corner and wait
Establish a good enough relationship so much so that you guys go out occassionally enough to 'kinda' know of her lovelife situation. Better yet, befriend her best friend (and hopefully she has a loose tongue). Then wait for her relationship to fall apart, and STRIKE! while the iron is hot. Heh. Sounds easy enough, and it can possibly be so if your timing is good enough, but danger lurks where she's having a fantastic relationship with her (blasted) fella, and you end up waiting for about 3-7 years before she decides to marry the dude and have little mini-hers running around. So whilst this option may not guaruntee results... it is possibly the safest. I mean, if its meant to be, its meant to be.. (another life-principle I believe in), and depending on your own principles, you could possibly even date other people while you're waiting around (though this is tricky as well, 'cause then you end up using someone else to pass time). But I'm not here to judge you, and to be honest - whatever floats your boat, right?
4. Burn it
Totally not have anything to do with her, 'cause you're not that sorta person to break a relationship up. Slightly less pro-active than option (3), but still, it really ain't a bad idea, at the end of the day. There are LOTS of fish in the sea. Trust me, you'd find someone else as good / better than that person that you think is the special one. Stop wanting what you can't have, and move on. With some luck, she'll realise what she let go, and chase after you instead. ;)